handsome
the other night at a bar, someone called me “handsome.” on the outside, i smiled and thanked them for the compliment, but on the inside, i said to myself, “not again!”
i’ve been called handsome for as long as i can remember. that seems to be the word that everyone usually goes to when describing my physical appearance. now, i know that being called handsome is indeed a compliment, but every time someone uses that word to describe me i cringe a little bit.
my problem with the word is that every time i hear it, my immediate thought is, “my dad is handsome!” i grew up hearing “your dad is so handsome” on almost a weekly basis- whether it be at church or out in the streets; and ever since, i’ve just had a weird association with the word. in my mind, older guys are handsome.
i cringe when people call me handsome because i’m like, “do i really look that old?” i wanna be sexy…attractive…hot! those are the words that people use to describe potential dates, boyfriends and partners. you never hear someone say, “my boyfriend is so fucking handsome!” nobody wants to fuck “handsome.” they’re too busy fucking “sexy,” “attractive,” and “hot!”
like i said, being called “handsome” is very much so a compliment. a compliment i do accept every time i receive it. big brother mention to me that when people use that term, it’s not to describe someone who is older, but that the word “handsome” describes an attractive man. boys are cute, hot, and attractive, but men are handsome. on top of that, he offered, “some people don’t even get called ‘handsome”- you better take what you can get.”
hearing all of that set off a little light bulb in my brain… handsome is a good thing- no matter what age you are! i always wanted to be hot or sexy, but never really embraced what i actually am. i’m always working on myself to be a better man, and am very proud of the man that i’ve become. what better way to describe the attractiveness of this man than to say, “he’s handsome?”
hmm…that doesn’t sound so bad after all. i’ll take that!
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